Impacts of an In-effective Mindset in relation to Mid-life passage

There are a number of significant symptoms or experiences which signify the summons to the Middle Passage. They occur autonomously, outside the will of the ego. They transpire silently, day by day, and trouble the sleep of the inner child who wants the known and treasures security above all else. But they represent the ineluctable movements of life toward its unknown fulfillment, a teleological process which serves nature and its mysteries, and cares little for the wishes of a nervous ego.  

We have seen time and time again the negative impacts of the mind-set / thinking styles and the self-defeating consequences people impose on themselves. There are many common patterns and associated behaviours caused by external stimulus (by others, society etc.) however the depth and duration of your personal emotional responses can cause negative impacts and personal crisis. To understand the + / - impacts of mindset on your health, click here: 

By understandings your current mindset (attitudes, values and beliefs and internal motivations) you can deepen an understanding of what is happening to you (the why's), key areas of strength and weakness and how you and others are being impacted. With a greater sense of conscious self awareness you can develop a prescriptive path, solidify a sense of successes you have had to date and how to strengthen the odds of greater progress along your passage. 

Sample LSI Mindset Assessment Connections to Mid-Life Challenges

Self Actualize-Based Mindset

Impacts of Low Self Actualization Thinking Styles / Motivations (Mid-Life Challenges):
 

  • low levels of engagement, energy and overall commitment. 

  • lack of purpose, sense of direction and hope for the future.

  • ineffective use of past experiences and strengths to assist with personal growth.  

  • hard judgmental attitude towards self and others. 

Common Mid-Life Passage Entry Points: 
 

  • slow down, connect with nature and / or self actualize people (supportive role models). 

  • finding a deeper and more meaningful sense of purpose.

  • aligning with a stronger set of personal core values

  • increasing ones capacity for personal growth and development / maturity.

Avoidance-Based Mindset​

Impacts of High Avoidance-based Thinking / Motivations (Mid-Life Challenges) :

  • low levels of motivation, communication and responsibility for your own behaviour. 

  • decreased capacity of the person to tolerate the anxiety, ambiguity, and ambivalence that are a necessary and unavoidable dimension of life. 

  • lack of self disclosure, withdrawing from and avoiding personal responsibilities. 

  • feelings of guilt over real or imagined mistake, failure leading to emotional isolation.

Common Mid-Life Passage Entry Points: 

  • increased in one’s ability to internalize and to take personal responsibility.

  • exploration of self to answer the call of individuation.

  • moving from unconscious to conscious thinking to conscious use-of-self development.

  • stop shift responsibilities to others to avoid any possibility of being blamed for a mistake. 

Power-Based Mindset

Impacts of High Power-based Thinking Motivations (Mid-Life Challenges):

  • push people away leading to emotional isolation and loneliness.  

  • always need to be in control, on-guard and the offensive (drains energy).

  • dogmatic and rigid, gets angry easily and little confidence in others. 

  • those who are insecure seek power over others as a compensation for inadequacy and wind up bringing consequences down upon their heads and those around them. 

Common Mid-Life Passage Entry Points: 

  • learning to value being vulnerable and learning how to enable trust with others. 

  • reducing your need for power, status and control by truly embracing shared power.

  • accepting feedback from others and stop ignoring other peoples points of view. 

  • allowing others to take the lead and having the confidence to work more 'with' others.

Perfectionistic-Based Mindset

Impacts of High Perfectionistic-based Thinking Motivations (Mid-Life Challenges):

  • perfectionists tend to believe that unless they are “perfect,” they are nothing. 

  • since their drive for perfection practically guarantees failure, these individuals tend to remain dissatisfied with even their best work. 

  • perfectionists often need to seek flawless results in many aspects of their lives. 

  • nothing is ever good enough for perfectionists. (often self and from others)

Common Mid-Life Passage Entry Points: 

  • learning to share and process emotions; value and openness to being vulnerable.

  • reducing your need for perfectionism by truly embracing the pursuit of excellence.

  • accepting feedback from others and stop ignoring other peoples points of view. 

  • not getting 'hung up' or 'lose sight' of the big picture of life.